About 5 years ago I taught a woman in my prenatal yoga class who was expecting her 5th child. She seemed to be in overwhelm and was frustrated by the fact that her husband was not making her 5th pregnancy easier by helping her manage the household or giving her foot rubs at night. She said he would just sit in front of the TV while she complained about her physical discomfort and fatigue. I asked her if she had, at any time, communicated her need to him. She said, “No, shouldn’t he just know?” I suggested she go home and let him know that night she wanted her feet rubbed.
The following week she came back to class and told the class of how her husband had “changed overnight” simply by her asking for him to do things, like unload the dishwasher, give her massages or put the kids to bed. Men are not mind readers (nor are many women, but there are some), but in order for us to better take care of ourselves we MUST ask, we must express, we must communicate in the most graceful, loving and peaceful way. It is important as we move into motherhood, whether it be as a mother of one or five. We can avoid so much resentment and outer conflict by speaking our truths from a heart-centered place.
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