As we write this a Fall wind is wrapping itself around our house. We can hear children, running around the yard. Take a moment to soak it all in and be in gratitude, and be thankful for a bit of silence and a moment of reflection. It is important to go inward, reflect, meditate. Before you have children taking time for yourself is so easy. It just is. You hike in the hills alone, meditate solo, or sit quietly and read a book.
Once the baby comes, simple tasks like that can be challenging. Babies want to be in your arms all the time, and you want to hold them too. Of course you will value the time with your children, they need you and one day they won’t, well not in quite the same way. But taking a moment to have to oneself is not a luxury, it is a necessity. And we just don’t mean a late night bath, where one collapses in the lukewarm water that has been waiting for you all night. We mean, focused time alone. It may be scheduled or it may “occur” organically but it must be cultivated and re-occurring.
When a woman is pregnant (with her first child anyway) cultivating time alone, a time of reflection happens so easily. You are bonding inwardly with your child, you are musing on your future as a mother…and then baby comes and everything is so external, so right in front of you. Ladies, the seasons are changing, our children are growing and life goes on. But please take this time to notice the sounds around you, acknowledge the things you have done and take a deep breath, better yet take a few.