Being pregnant for the second time makes me reminisce about pregnancy number one. We were starting up my company and I spent the whole time belly-deep in makeup samples and packaging samples and shipping boxes, making big decisions while I was under the influence of all those crazy pregnancy hormones.
Luckily, my husband is my business partner as well as my life partner, so I never had to do the heavy lifting alone, literally or figuratively. Throughout this pregnancy, too, Ali and I have been making decisions and doing things together—finding the best Kindergarten for Rumi Joon, renting an old stone farmhouse in Pennsylvania for the summer, talking to Rumi about being a big sister. In the Maran-Alborzi household, it’s all for one, and one for all.
When I was pregnant with my first baby, people kept giving me advice. “Don’t exercise too much.” “Stay in shape.” “When you’re pregnant, you get to eat whatever you want.” “When you’re pregnant you have to be extra-careful what you eat.” It got kind of crazy, trying to figure out which advice to follow. As soon as I started researching my choices, I realized that the most natural way of giving birth was going to be best for me. Rumi was born at home, outside, and it was an incredible experience. I’m planning the same kind of birth for my second child.
I take a few moments every day to connect me to baby number two, like singing to my belly. When I was pregnant with Rumi and for a long time after she was born, I sang “You Are My Sunshine” to her all the time. Singing to my belly is like having a deep conversation with my little bean about the wonders of the world.
What could be cooler than carrying a life inside you? Pregnancy is a great excuse to pamper yourself (in healthy ways, of course!), and accept it gratefully when your partner and others do the same. I’m cherishing this super-special time.