It’s been a debate throughout history. Some say it started with women’s lib. Some say it’s been an ongoing debate. I find myself looking at a historical record that talks about the topic with great passion. You might recall Proverbs 31, but here it is again:
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
This is from the New International Verson so it reads a little different from the original, but you get the idea.
The fact of the matter is that there aren’t many moms who haven’t felt like they were frowned upon for their decision, whether it was to stay at home, work from home or work a job outside of the home. The truth is that no matter what you decide to do, there will always be a family member, friend or complete stranger that feels you went about it wrong. If you read Proverbs 31 it never says what the mother did outside of taking care of her family, contributing to the family income and running the house. I have to add my comment here … don’t all moms do that?
Whether you are a work at home, stay at home or work outside the home mom, you are a MOM and you do everything listed in Proverbs 31 in the best way you know how… in a way that makes sense for YOUR family. It doesn’t matter where you find yourself through the day, you have made a decision that you felt was best for your family. Cut yourself some slack on that one. Please? Being a mom is a challenge no matter what the rest of your day looks like. We can move forward knowing that there is no right answer. There is no cookie cutter puzzle that fits us all. We are unique in every way. No two families or situations are the same. Even if there are days that you feel like you have been completely knocked off your feet, as Alisa Donner, the co-founder of PAM once told me … Today is a new day. There is no need to look back.
Be proud of where you are right now despite any other persons opinion of the decision.
Passage taken from http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs+31&version=NIV