When you’re a new or expecting dad advice comes at you from every direction. Some of it is great, and other bits you have to take with a grain of salt. With seven kids of my own, I’ve compiled a list of the top 5 things every new or expecting dad needs to know:
- Be present: Get off the computer, put your phone down and truly be present with your children whenever you have the opportunity. This will allow the time you actually get to spend with your kids to matter more; it will allow you to build bonds that will last a lifetime. With so much technology right at our fingertips, it can be hard to stop reading emails as they come in and spend time in the moment with your child, but it’s one of the most important things you can do as a parent.
- Be consistent: Consistency is important in all aspects of life. Be consistent with whatever your role is in your child’s life ensuring they understand you’re a consistent part of their life. Be consistent with routines, expectations and boundaries as well. A child who has consistent boundaries will grow up to better understand the difference between what’s right and wrong. Be as consistent as you can, and it’ll show through your parenting.
- Be selfless: It’s not all about you anymore. In fact, you’ll need to learn to be completely selfless and put someone else’s life before your own. Being selfless is a hard lesson to learn for first time dads; it’s tricky, but it’s worth it. When you hold your child in your arms for the first time you’ll know a new kind of love, and that love will allow you to be a selfless dad.
- Support your wife: Expectant dads need to find way in which they can support their pregnant wife each and every day. You can support your wife emotionally and you can support your wife physically. Emotional support comes from sitting down and communicating or sometimes just listening to her concerns, her fears, her frustrations, etc. Physical support is anything from a foot massage to doing household chores and more. Work to be a great support for your wife.
- Show your child love daily: Don’t let a day pass by without letting your child know how much you love and appreciate them. It doesn’t need to be a grand gesture; a simple hug works just fine. If you raise a child in a home of love and support you’ll be raising a compassionate, empathetic child who will be able to make a difference in the world.
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